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Human Nature and The Problems We Face - Dr. Rick Hanson


Charlottesville

June 28, 2022

Viktor Frankl. I go through times when I forget the above quotation. So simple yet so powerful. It’s so easy to fall into the thought “that’s just the way I am.” But that’s a cop out. We can always be better — it just takes that magic ingredient “attitude.”


Reading the article below reminded me of Frankl’s quote (is that a dangling participle?). Powerful stuff.


In the last few years, many of us have begun to lose hope in humanity. The torrent of bad news, the resurgence of old hatreds, and our seeming inability to tackle the greatest problems that face us has led many people to despair, cynicism, and anguish. There's a well-known teaching story on this subject that gives me the shivers whenever I think of it. It's about an elder who is asked what she had done to become so happy, so wise, so loved and respected. She replies: “I know that there are two wolves in my heart: a wolf of love and a wolf of hate. And I know that everything depends on which one I feed each day.” Who among us does not have both these two wolves in their heart? We all have capacities both for love and generosity on the one hand, and for selfishness and hate on the other. I know I do.


I also know that we've got these two wolves because we evolved them, because both wolves were once needed to keep our ancestors alive. For several million years, our hominid and early human ancestors lived and evolved in small hunter-gatherer groups that competed with one another for scarce resources. When bands met, they often fought. Researchers have found that about 12-15% of hunter-gatherer males died in such conflicts—compared to the 1% of men who died in the many bloody wars of the 20th century. Therefore, genes got passed on that promoted more cooperation inside a band and more aggression toward the "other." Both of these wolves are stitched into human DNA. It’s evolutionarily natural to fear strangers, who were indeed often threats at an earlier time In human history. The related impulse to dehumanize and attack “them” served to pass on genes for millions of years. But that does not mean, as some would say, that this is just how human life always has been and must forever be. While the wolf of “hate” also includes important capabilities such as fierce protection, we need to regulate it in new ways as we live together as a single human tribe of 8 billion people on our precious earth. When a virus mutating anywhere can become a worldwide plague and when carbon emissions in one country heat up the whole planet, the unleashed wolf of hate disrupts the cooperation and sense of common humanity needed to solve these problems. When we dismiss, fear, or attack “them,” it usually comes back to harm “us.” While the wolf of hate is a part of us, it doesn't have to dictate our thoughts, words, and deeds. We have the freedom to relate to it wisely or unwisely. That doesn't mean we can kill or repress the wolf of hate—that just makes it stronger. But as the wise elder said, we can stop feeding it with fear and anger. This takes work. For thousands of years, the powerful have fed grievances and stoked rage and fear for their own purposes, to hold onto wealth and power. All around we can see this happening in front of our eyes today. We can't be passive about this; we have to see those who feed the wolf of hate, and act with skill and strength in whatever ways we can against them. This takes mindful attention, and a whole lot of patience. Countless goodhearted people have done this for thousands of years, and the world would be so much worse without their efforts. They called out bullies and tyrants, they refused to be manipulated by grudges and vengeance, they marched and spoke up and stood tall for the greater good. They did it, they are doing it—and we can, too. Meanwhile, it is a moral imperative to feed the wolf of love. You can do this by befriending yourself, by treating yourself as you would treat a friend. Have compassion for yourself. Be aware of your own decency and kindness; know that you are a basically good person. Consciously take in the good of everyday experiences of feeling seen, appreciated, liked, and loved. You can also feed the wolf of love by caring about others. For instance, you can see their suffering and wish them well. You can recognize the good in them. You can take a fundamental stance of non-harming toward all beings. You can let in these experiences and make room for the wolf of love in your heart. And you can feed it by consciously seeing the good in the world, and the good in the future that we can make together. While the wolf of hate may dominate the headlines, it is actually the wolf of love that is much more pervasive and powerful. While humans have spent a lot of time fighting over the millennia, still the majority of daily life has been and is based on compassion and cooperation—what Professor Paul Gilbert has termed “caring and sharing.” Fortunately, this work is delightful. Although it takes effort to do so, it raises our spirits to see what’s good in other people, what’s good in ourselves, what’s already good in our world, and what could be better in a world we can build together. Choosing to feed the wolf of love is not to deny all that is wrong and broken. On the contrary, protecting and nurturing our better nature, and protecting and nurturing each other and our sweet world altogether, is the most powerful and profound way to address our issues.


Let’s stay strong, and hold onto each other.


Note:


My sister Jacquie pointed out that Frankl also had the following observation:


So, what is the meaning of life? According to Frankl, “the meaning of life is to be discovered in the world rather than within man or his own psyche, as though it were a closed system.”


To expand on that theme… It denotes the fact that being human always points, and is directed, to something, or someone, other than oneself — be it a meaning to fulfill or another human being to encounter. The more one forgets himself — by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love — the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself. What is called self-actualization is not an attainable aim at all, for the simple reason that the more one would strive for it, the more he would miss it. In other words, self-actualization is possible only as a side-effect of self-transcendence.”


The meaning of life always changes, but it never ceases to be. It can be discovered in three ways according to logotherapy: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.


In sum, meaning is everywhere, all the time.

Logotherapy is defined by the technique of ‘paradoxical intention’, based on the two-fold fact that fear brings about that which one is afraid of, and that ‘hyper-intention’ makes impossible what one wishes. These technical terms describe a basic human phenomenon: when we fear something, we increase the chances of it happening; and when we try too hard to make something happen, we decrease the chances of its materializing. Think of struggling with sleeplessness or anticipatory anxiety, two common examples Frankl discusses. Both of these uncomfortable states can be counteracted by paradoxical intention. If you have a hard time falling asleep, try to stay awake. If you worry about a sweat attack, “resolve deliberately to show people how much [you] can sweat”, thereby adopting a reversal of attitude that takes the wind out of the sales of anxiety.


“Logotherapy conceives of conscience as a prompter which, if need be, indicates the direction in which we have to move in a given life situation. In order to carry out such a task, conscience must apply a measuring stick to the situation one is confronted with, and this situation has to be evaluated in the light of a set of criteria, in the light of a hierarchy of values. These values, however, cannot be espoused and adopted by us on a conscious level — they are something that we are. They have crystallized in the course of the evolution of our species; they are founded on our biological past and are rooted in our biological depth.”


This idea seems to contradict the paragraph I italicized above in Hanson’s discussion of the wolf of love. Hanson argues you need to live yourself AND love others. Frankl argues you need to focus outwardly. In my own mind, I can reconcile the two ideas. I agree completely that the meaning of life is an outward facing function. But that perspective relies, at least initially, on a healthy self acceptance — perhaps Frankl thought that was self evident?


Heady stuff!

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