Shame, Shame, Shame
- Lucian@going2paris.net
- 12 minutes ago
- 2 min read
Charlottesville
Pi Day 2026
Damn. Frustrating. Extremely so. I had a goal and I’ve undermined it by “just this one time” thinking. I’ll only have one cookie. Actually two so t matter.
Hell, it doesn’t matter if I can’t lose a few pounds.
But of course it does.
If I could curb my emotional eating, I think I’d be surprised by the positive effect. This week I gave into it; I’m hoping today I can start anew … again.
Helpful thoughts from Google:
Shame regarding weight gain often stems from societal pressures, internalized biases, and the false belief that body size reflects character. This shame can trigger a cycle of guilt, anxiety, and depression, which may lead to further weight gain, unhealthy eating habits, and social withdrawal. Overcoming this requires self-compassion, challenging negative beliefs, and focusing on health rather than appearance.
Understanding and Coping with Weight Shame:
Acknowledge the Root Causes: Understand that weight gain is not just a personal failure but often tied to hormonal imbalances, stress, or life changes.
Ditch the Guilt: Shame is a global judgment of yourself, while guilt is a focus on a behavior; both can hinder progress. Realize that your weight does not define your worth.
Fight Internalized Bias: Recognize that many people hold internalized weight bias (approx. 2 in 5 Americans), which can make you sicker rather than healthier.
Avoid Self-Blame: Research shows that fat shaming (including self-shaming) can contribute to weight regain rather than motivating weight loss.
Adopt New Goals: Shift focus from a number on a scale to healthy behaviors, such as mindful eating, intuitive movement, and better sleep.
Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, just as you would a friend who is going through a difficult time.
Steps for Action:
Consider Therapy: Seek support from professionals specializing in body image, eating disorders, or Health At Every Size (HAES).
Reframe the Narrative: Practice positive self-talk and remind yourself that bodies change and that it is okay.
Focus on Nourishment: Focus on nourishing your body, not punishing it through restrictive diets.
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